Aloha Nation and welcome back to the #PhoenixNation blog, for this third instalment of the Week we’re going to turn the ‘floor’ back over to #PhoenixEvolutionRelationshipCoaching
Given how disposable relationships have come to be in Today’s Society I feel confident in saying that we’ve all had a break-up or a relationship prematurely end, it is this that we want to talk about in this instalment.
In any break-up your emotions are stripped raw, so it is important to have a good support structure to rely on. This support structure can be your source of greatest strength AND a source of pain, this is as often a member of this support structure will inadvertently tell you to ‘get over it’ in the misguided belief it will help. It won’t and it doesn’t.
The awful truth is that the post-break-up healing process takes time, there is no magical salve or cure for the pain other than time. Some individuals can jump out on one relationship into another with no ill effects and some withdraw completely, we’re all different and heal at our own pace.
For example one of our earliest Clients took a few Months to start dating again after his wife walked out on him, another chose to jump straight into a rebound relationship with one of his friends’ wife and a third salved his pain with a string of destructive relationships.
Despite these three individuals finding themselves in similar situations at no time did anyone here in the #PhoenixNation Office ever say ‘get over it’, instead we were supportive and allowed them the time that they needed to heal. So the next time you are in the presence of someone who has gone through a break-up and is struggling just remember;
1/ No matter what they say it’s not about you – it is highly likely that they’re struggling to make sense of something that they will never get an answer for.
2/ Let them vent – once again it’s not about you. They will be angry and repressing this is the worst thing they could do.
Mahalo (Thank You) for joining me and, until next time, as always with much Aloha I remain
Jon
Jon G. Richelieu-Booth
Founder, Director of Coaching and interim Director of Relationship Coaching
Phoenix Evolution
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